I am grateful for a decent day. Not much interaction with H, but we did have a short and pleasant convo. Day by day!
I've been thinking about some other issues I need to deal with in my sitch. In laws on both sides. My family is pretty supportive, although they would like to see me move on from H- they don't like him. But they understand its my decision. My mom, however, does create problems at times. H flat out told me she was part of 'the problem'.
I think I did make some recent headway there- my mom has a really bad habit of calling multiple times, and will keep calling until she gets someone. This is out of concern, not impatience, because she knows he has a really bad temper. She worries. A lot. She did so recently, he got mad, but I handled it with her and told him so.
I do have a pretty blunt relationship with my mom, so I can tell her how I feel about the interference. Its difficult to think about because I am very close to my family, and my H is going to be very uncomfortable around them. I picture very awkward holidays if a R happens, although I think eventually it would level out.
His family, on the other hand, is a mixed bag. One half (his parents are divorced) is very nice, and continues to make me feel welcome. The other half has not contacted me in any manner since July. In fact, I just saw his mom blocked me (not unfriended) from viewing her FB info. Pretty childish, imo.
She has also been WAY too involved in our issues, and is very manipulative. His siblings are 'incapable of independent thought' (his words, not mine), so his mom tends to be the puppet master there. She definitely pushes him to do things he wouldn't ordinarily do, and I'm dreading when she comes back to town.
The sudden stop in communication is standard MO for that side of the family- another sibling's SO (who is splitting after 25 years of marriage) even commented that no one had even called to see how they were, even after being part of the family for such a long time.
