My apologies, I was just re reading my post to you and I just realized I may have given the impression that you have to wait a 'few years at least' until you can 're connect' again at all.
Actually, an actual re connection with a spouse like this often comes a lot sooner than that. A few months sometimes.
It's just that very often when one reconnects with a wayward spouse it almost always means you have to brace yourself for more if you get back together.
Yes, after reconnecting, issues will need to be worked through. Just don't jump into pointing a hard finger at H. You may scare him off. Give it time. Be firm when needed but do work through each issue as best as you can. Just don't try to cram them all at once. (It's very important to be smart about this.)
This just means that for now you have to take care of you. If all is good, it usually means at least 2 to 3 years before both can feel comfortable again. If things go south for a bit, you'll still be fine. Get yourself up and start making good changes and you'll be good to go,
Coyote Boy
I haven't posted much in the last seven years. I've been a lurker. Just lookin' to put back all the good help I've gotten...
