The last couple of days has been strange to say the least. Here's what has happened:
asked W if she was going to go trick-or-treating with the kids and I (I had them on Halloween). Check three posts up for the story.
W came over to drop something off for the kids. We talked a bit and I told her that I wasn't mad at her at all...Just giving her space like she asked for
Halloween...she came over after work. She chuckled at me when she saw me in my Angry Birds costume. I knew she was laughing because is the first year in my entire life that I dressed up for Halloween. I jokingly asked if she was making fun of me, she said no, she thinks it's cute.
Anyway, she met a friend when trick-or-treating, but spent most of the time with the kids and I...which shocked me as she hasn't done that in awhile. She text messaged on her phone a lot, but who knows what that was all about.
My W got fired from her job the next day. She text messaged me telling me all about it. I asked if I could call her in a bit because I couldn't text as I was at work. She said yes...we talked about her job and a bit of other stuff.
My oldest D received straight A's on her report card and won and award for her grades and behavior. To celebrate we ate out and I let her pick the place. Since the W and i were getting along better, and she just lost her job, I asked her if she wanted to come. To my surprise she said yes. We had a good time. I paid for everything and she later thanked me via text. I thanked her for coming and told her that our D really enjoyed it.
She was commenting on how she thinks a filling in her tooth came out and is infected...she's was in terrible pain. Knowing she doesn't have $$ or a job I offered to pay for her to go to the dentist. She declined and I told her to let me know if she changes her mind, and then I let it drop. I would have done that for any friend...which is how I am approaching all of this...as if we are just friends.
At dinner I realized that I had to take my D to school the next morning and I told my boss that I'd be in early that day. W offered to come by the house early in the morning and get the kids ready and off to school so I wouldn't be late for work.
D's award ceremony was today, which I could not attend due to work. W went though. She text messaged me multiple pictures and three videos. Very odd. I thanked her.
W text messaged me and asked me if I could get the kids because she couldn't take the pain anymore and was going to the hospital. No problem on my end, so I dropped by her place, helped her take some laundry up to her apartment, and took the kids. I asked her if she needed a ride to the hospital and she declined. I then asked her to call someone to pick her up if they gave her some meds that made her drowsy. I told her that I could do it if she needed.
W text messaged me after hospital visit. Part of her tooth broke off and the nerve is exposed...it is also infected. She told me she didn't cash her check today and asked if I could give her some money to pick up the antibiotic and pain medicine they prescribed her. Of course, as I would with any other friend, I told her sure. I didn't have cash so she took my debit card. She told me that she'd drop the card off as soon as she got her meds. The pharmacy is by her house and rather than her going there, then coming back to my place and then back to her place, I told her to just go home and get some rest...I'll pick up the card tomorrow morning when I drop off our D.
Again, I'm trying to approach this whole thing as if we are just friends. I know this sounds a bit negative, but I am acting as if she already has a boyfriend, has file filed for divorce and completely uninterested in her and I being a couple. I do not want to even remotely look like I am pursuing because, if she does want to work on us, then changes her mind again, she'll claim that I manipulated her and made her feel guilty. I know MLCers go off of feelings so things can change at the drop of a hat.
I did not have any plans of contacting her while she has the kids (Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat) and only contacting her asking what time we could swap the kids. Well, until the whole hospital thing came up.
Am I giving too much? Am I overdoing it? Is she cake-eating? Like I said, I only offer to do stuff that I would offer to any other friend. If she declines, I drop it and never mention it again. Even with her driving home from the hospital, I asked her to at least call someone and not attempt to drive home. Believe me, I would love to take the kids for the rest of the week, bring her soup, movies and let her rest the rest of the week. I would like to take care of her, but I can't.
