GALing and Boundaries with XH

[AJM]

Agreed. He does seem to be blaming you and really enjoyed the part (logically) where you took blame. I suspect he knows that even if you did do that, it was in response to the environmental factors. It was never intended to be in anger and you *could* have learned differently.

His leaving was not your fault is what I'm after. Your mistakes did not drive him away. I read that and I thought, what? You needed her for like a few days, she wasn't available, and you left for somebody else?

I am loosely exaggerating, but I suspect he is not playing with a full deck on this one. And seems to know it.

I don't for a second by the BS that it wouldn't work. Easy to see he is not "happy" but rather he is controlled and not having to make decisions on his own. That is not healthy if you ask me.

I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm also glad you are getting some perspective.

One thing that stood out is that he seemed to want you to call him, but is likely worried about the pain and the OW finding out (as if that makes sense). He is very confused/conflicted. I feel for you both.

AJ