Hi, DG. I'm so sorry to read about the latest turn of events. I know first hand about the horrible anger, sadness, anxiety, etc. It's NOT fun. I hope you have some close friends or family you can lean on for the comfort and support you need right now. I don't know how I would have gotten through those early days without my best friend.
Has your husband had you served yet, or has he even told you he officially filed? All so bizarre the way the mind of the WAS works. My husband did the same thing when he filed - didn't say a word to me about it. I had to find out from a lawyer friend who happen to see it on public record. Talk about feeling humiliated (and very p!ssed off)! You just wonder why the WAS can't "man up" and inform you of the $h!tstorm they are sending your way!
I've read on here several times that the fight to save your marriage isn't over until YOU decide it's over. I believe that is true. That time is different for all of us; heck, some people even hang in there after the divorce is final (and in some cases, that works and the couple eventually remarries). In my case, I came very, very close to giving up. I'm glad I didn't, and I'm REALLY glad that I learn to effectively DB (even if it wouldn't have saved my marriage, it helped me grow considerably). Whatever you decide to do, I have confidence that you will handle yourself with grace.
It is too bad for your husband that he is missing out on you. Remind yourself of that often. Even though it hurts worse than you ever thought possible, HE is the one who ends up the big loser.
