Those are just labels that represent groupings of issues so I wouldn't worry too much about it. You definitely have a WAW -- she wants a divorce and you don't. MLC may be one driver for WAW behavior, or it may not be.

I guess if you read about and understand MLC behavior and motivations, it can't hurt. You can probably effectively apply the same strategies regardless of whether or not your W is having an MLC.

The bottom line is that she wants out and you don't. What are you doing about that?

What have you tried?

How is it working?

What do you still need to do or do better, and how are you going to do it?

In my opinion those are better questions than what's driving your W's behavior because you can't control that and may never understand it completely.

Listen to what she's telling you very closely about what you do or say or don't do and how she feels about it. Don't argue or rationalize it away. Internalize it, own it, and address it (or decide not to) but don't let it slide.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015