I agree. Put yourself in her place and think about how you'd interpret it if you got in the car and the wife was cold and disapproving. It would give her the power (to quote a recent hilarious SNL skit). She would see that you and your husband were not in agreement, not emotionally together. She would see that she had made at least enough of an impression on this older man to annoy his wife. Maybe there's a chance...?
So be exactly toward her as you would be if you were in a wonderful, troublefree marriage. Treat her like she's no threat to you. The alternative does not help your cause.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
