[quote=InLikeFlynn]What is his incentive to stop when he has both of you? Are you just going to sit back let him screw his brains out with the OW and hope that something comes betweem then and they break up? You shouldn't sit back and take being a second choice!!! What will stop him from doing it again in the future especially when he thinks you won't leave. [/quote
Just so you know, This "advice"^^^ from INLF, is NOT DB based, nor is it solution based imo, and it sounds very punitive.
It sounds as if YOU, otoh, want to try and save this marriage - or at least you are contemplating that
so I urge you NOT to give in to feelings of prideful anger or vindictiveness.
I have never seen it yield anything but more pain.
(And of course there are options other than those^^, that are not doormat behaviors.)
More input coming...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
