Time will give your kids questions again. So you can ask them again, if they want to know something...let them ask. This won't be the only chance you have to talk to them.
my bet is your kids will not ask that much at first, but they will want to be reassured of what shall remain the same in their life.
That's huge...especially at their age.
Our d's both wanted to know if we were moving again. I knew I could remain in the house we were in then (still in btw)
until at least d22 (then 16) finished high school. So that meant the same home, same friends, same school and NONE OF THAT WOULD CHANGE....
and this comforted them greatly.
See if you can stress that part, plus how often you'll see them. They may want details about that, so think ahead of that. "Every Tuesday afternoon, and Saturdays..." or whatever...but only promise what you will deliver.
Sorry you are here, but I still see hope in your sitch.
Fundamentally your wife acts as if she has lost respect for you. But never assume that losing your temper or showing too much anger, or yelling or ignoring her or any of that crap - will somehow garner you her respect. A man in control of his emotions is atrractive, not a man trying to control others. Be calm, and consistent with your changes. Say nothing of them.
OF COURSE she'll have 2nd thoughts about her choices if your changes remain consistent. How can she not?
But the minute you revert, is when she'll validate herself in victory saying "See? HE DID NOT CHANGE!"...
so stay strong and calm and be consistent with those changes, b/c you want them to be real for YOU and yours... be the best man you can become, and leave the results up to God.
make sense?
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