DG I'm glad you feel like you are able to let the rope go.
There are times when I drop the rope. At this stage of my life.. I still pick it up but each time I wait longer and hold on more loosely. I know my day to drop for good will happen sooner rather than later.
At this point.. you can't take him back. You said you are hurt and angry and until those feelings are dealt with.. your m wouldn't stand a chance anyways.
Continue to love yourself more but do this by forgiving yourself, and work on forgiving your husband. There is no better love for oneself than to rid our hearts of negative feelings.
Keep on keeping on.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.