Hi there - I know you were just ranting, but maybe the outside perspectives here offer you food for thought.
I didn't read much threat into what you said she said/did. Do you have a lot of friends and support where you are? It's possible she's reaching out because H suggested it and she's trying to help. People try to help in unhelpful ways, but their heart is in the right place. It's unrealistic for her to be super-supportive of both of you when you are at odds with each other, but it's not her fault for trying.
It stings when people suggest H has some reason to excuse what he's done - the mountain biking thing is not what you want to hear from this friend, but there's a glimmer of truth there. I know...I've had similar feelings of resentment when a friend tries to help me understand H's point of view. Be strong. Let it roll off your back if necessary.
Asking for the halloween costume photo verges into the weird category, don't know what to say about that.
Feeling jealous of her, let alone voicing it, is not going to get you anywhere good.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
