Do I stay or do I go?

[aeolianchaos]

Anyhope,

I also agree w/ OldTimer. He has given you some very good actionable steps to take and I don't think you would regret any of them.

Esp. the getting tested part. You really really don't want to have to explain to your next partner how they got an STD from you. I don't know what they have in Canada, but when I found out about my W's A, I went to planned parenthood to get tested and found them to be empathic and respectful. Hopefully you're in the clear, but w/ your H acting the way he is, I would assume nothing.

As far compassion goes.. you have a lot on your plate right now but its a subject that will be worth exploring in depth once you get settled down.

Best of luck tomorrow.