W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[sandi2]

So now I've got to figure out a temporary living arrangement until the apartment becomes available.

Why? B/c it may PO your W? You need to start walking on two legs, and stop living in fear that your WAW might not be happy about something!

"I've got it covered and please stop the pressure."

she wants me to live in and then the text earlier today about my progress cause if there is none, she's going to take care of it!

Do you not hear how you sound? Can you see how hen-pecked you are? The woman runs over you! She is going to check on your progress and if not to her liking then she'll take care of it? You are not a child in elementary school, and you certainly are not her child. This is a total lack of respect for you as a man. She has controlled you for so long, you have come to accept it?

"I'm not pressuring you, just preparing myself for telling the boys. If we can I'd like to tell them a few days before you move. Where will you be living?"

Same thing here.....control. She just turned the wording around to make it "emotional" control.

I need to be there when she drops the bomb on their heads and help to pick up the pieces of their shattered hearts.

Absolutely! But also, to make sure she tells them the truth and not her one-sided version of the story. That's why it doesn't look good for you to leave the house. Now she can tell her folks, and the boys, that you walked out on "her"!

The other part of me recognizes that it will be my W who decides if there is going to be a R and that is no where in our future from what I can see at present.

Maybe you should think about being the one to decide about the future of this R.

Utill you have her respect for you as a man (first), her husband (second), and the father of her children (third).....you won't have any happiness with her, and I feel sure that she won't even consider a future for the M.

Women have to feel respect for the man before she has those in-love feelings.