Personally, I think you should seriously table all thoughts of a second child for a couple years until your M is very stable. If you think things are bad now with one kid, it will be multiplied by having another. And what if (God forbid) something happens to your second child, like their born with something? You need to know without a shadow of a doubt that your partner is going to be there for you and not bail.
It's happened to more than a few people on this board. Heck one guy left his W while she was dying of cancer. This was after she thought they had successfully R. He couldn't handle the pressure and just left.
You need AT LEAST a couple years for things to settle down and you can trust each other again.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
