I have decided that she doesn't exist in my world. I'm not bringing her up to H and I just have to be okay with them being friends
You do not have to be okay with them being friends! He cheated on you with her.....she isn't his friend. As the wayward spouse, he needs to show that he is putting forth effort to work on the M, and the first thing he needs to do is have nothing further to do with OW. Until he's willing to do that, your M won't heal. The burden of proof is on him....not you.
I hope you're okay, and I hope you'll let us hear from you.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
