Back home - but for how long?

[2thepoint]

In the back of my mind is my W saying it's done and there is no chance of resurrecting the M. I keep asking myself why hasn't she filed. I know she's seen a L - I know she's talked to folks about financing the house. I'm not going to suggest she does but what is holding her back?

I know I should focus on me and the girls and let her go down the path she has chosen, but this is so destructive I feel I need to do something about it.

So many of us can totally relate to what you are saying. It would seem to me that her hesitancy in filing may be a good thing... or not. God only knows. But if you continue to focus on those things that make you a better person and father and if your W begins to find that attractive again, well then...

If she is going to come back to the R, it is unfortunately going to be of her time and choosing. So keep up what you are doing and try not to let your negative thoughts get the best of you. It is that same advice that I need to follow as well, So I'm right there with you!