A brief recap...my husband and I have been having marital problems for 3 years. Three times now my husband has filed for divorce, twice he has moved out. The most recent episode of this was the past late spring/early summer. Beginning late summer/early fall, we began piecing our marriage back together. Within the last month, he has began staying at home full-time with the (4) kids and me. We are just waiting for his lease on his other place to run its course, but basically we are completely back together again.
I've grown CONSIDERABLY this time around. The times before, I read DR and thought I was putting it into action, but I never stuck with it. I've learned the triggers that I do to push my husband away, and I've simply stopped doing them. Our communication with each other is great at this point, our sex life has always been amazing, and basically, we are just having a terrific time together and as a family again. I feel very hopeful about our future together.
So, we are officially piecing/reconciling. The problem I'm having right now is with our families. While I'm sure my husband's family will act as if we never skipped a beat, I feel some animosity toward them. This is something I am working through on my own. They do not live nearby so we don't see them very often, and that is giving me some good time to work through my hurt feelings. My family, on the other hand, is not pleased that my husband and I are reconciling. I can completely understand their feelings; they don't like seeing me hurt (and the kids hurt) over and over again. I do not know that my family will even welcome my husband back in their home. I come from a close family who I love very much. I want them to accept my husband and trust my judgment.
