Hon - I know this is hard for you to hear - but his behavior is SOOOOOOOO inappropriate, SO far from norms of acceptable behavior - you don't believe it now, but your life is gonna get SOOOOO much better once you move out! And eventually, I see you with some NORMAL guy, in a happy relationship, shaking your head and wondering what you ever saw in your ex.
Have fun decorating your new place the way YOU like. Do something a little crazy (I bought bright red sofas ). Life is about to get exciting and fun, believe it or not.