I've recently begun (again) the LRT. After a pretty big fight where some hateful things were said by both of us, we didn't speak for 11 days. It was brutal on me as I can see her FB page and in the midst of trashing me on the internet she found the time to update her relationship status to "In a Relationship." Now she's posting pictures of them kissing and all that good stuff. She doesn't think I can see but I think she's aware that people tell me some stuff sometimes. Anyway, after 11 days, I broke down yesterday and sent a "Happy Halloween" text. That led to some positive interaction. I let her have the last text and then didn't respond back. I'm thinking of trying to contact her again in a week or so. I was mysterious and told her I had some cool new things going on in my life. I'm really worried she's moving with OM but I'm hoping it's just a fling as they started dating less than a month after we "officially" split up. Anyway, try and stay strong and hopefully things will work out for you. I know that is super hard to do, but it truly is the only thing that works. I think you have to let the situation with the OM or OW run its course. After your spouse has left and is dating, everythign the new person does is going to be better than how you do it. In time, as they spend more time together, the same type of problems pop up as with any relationship.
