Navy, I second everything what 25 said. I think 25 put it best.
If your status quo continues, your wife might just ending resenting her situation even more. Her victimhood becomes so great that everything else you will not matter anymore. I know this because I went through this 2 years ago. Rather than dying a bit inside everyday and walking on eggshells, it is better if you take a stand. I know it is rocking the boat, but the way i see it, the boat is filling up with water fast...
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...