Yes , wife is very committed to saving marriage. Even though we are both over 55, I don't think the sex aversion problems are hormonal related.
Well hormones control sex, desire functions.
You did not indicate whether you had been to any medical doctors.
I understand that she has no desire but if she is committed to maintaining this marriage, I would guess that the two of you need to meet each others needs.
Are you willing to not have your needs met?
I would not endorse going outside the marriage which is what you have done, it seems that you are headed down a path that is destined for disaster.
Is your wife OK for you to be going elsewhere to meet your needs?
It seems to me that someone is going to have to change or compromise or you will not remain married.
