W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Well my journey has come to somewhat of an end. My wife has decided she wants a divorce and has met with a lawyer. I was ready to have the crap or got off the pot anyway as she has basically left me in the dark this whole time and really never showed any signs of wanting to come back or changing through this. If anything she has become a completely different person and lifestyle that I'm really not sure I think I want to live with. After more reflection I have realized my wife has never really known what makes her happy and she is always looking for the next thing to make her happy but she will never find it. I told her that you have to decide to be happy on your own just as love is a decision.

I really don't think my wife realizes the consequences of her decision as she really can't see past her nose right now. I really do think she will go through this new set of friends and will go another set of friends in the future as she continues her lost cause of happiness. She will take her bad communication skills with her to the next relationship along with the other issues that she really didn't address. I don't know what to say other than I don't think I could ever trust her if I did stay with her as it has been constant lies about finances, interaction with men (even a incident 3 years ago), and just a lack of character that many have noted. She has never really put her spouse first when making her decisions and thats just not how I think a marriage should work as I have always tried to put her first in my decisions.

I really do feel like I deserve better that loves (my wife even said that) and has a family that is not broken and torn apart. I did everything I could to keep this thing together but she put forth no effort and has continued her poor behavior with the last being a skanky costume for a Halloween party she went to. Come on, what am I suppose to do with that. I was taking my son to a family party while she was at this party even though it was her day with my son. Halloween was my day even though she thought it was hers after having my son for a week after changing the whole schedule up. Choosing a Halloween party over having my son is just a sign of many signs of what her priorities are. She has showed no care for me through this whole thing and at this point I think she has for sure had a EA if not PA. Many of her family are lost by it and my family is disgusted/lost by it. My wife loved our nieces/nephew so much and now she could care less. My wife has no nieces or nephews other then step ones that are really not family at this point. My son has no family ties to her family when it comes to kids which is why I wanted him so bad for Halloween as he had such a great time with his cousins that he knows.

It is truly sad that it has come to this by I can't change her decision and I don't think I want to considering that path she is headed down. I know this is the divorce busting forum but I think my wife had her mind up from the get go and just was giving it sometime to see if it felt right to her and apparently it does to her. My son is the victim of this selfish decision but she does not care and has been cake eating during this time. I will be the best dad I can be and love my S more than ever. My W is following in her father's footsteps exactly and the mother side of her family agrees and feels that she will continue down that path unfortunately. I get to babysit my son and W now depending on how her behavior turns out. I pray to God for strength and help in this situation. I have come to terms with it and am past the pain part of it.

What do you all think?