She came over last night to pick the girls up and I noticed that she had her wedding ring on her right hand. It was turned upside down and she was clearly trying to hide it from me. She kept her arms crossed in front of her, kept positioning herself with that side away, etc. Any thoughts on that or am I reading too much into it?
We tried counseling but she admitted that she was going just so that she could say she tried it.
I apologize for the stream of consciousness verbiage on display here. I have so many things I want to say/ask. I have been so forgetful and absentminded lately.
We are seperated now but she is acting like we are divorced. There is no talk of her needing space to think things over. SHe has flat out told me that she doesn't want to be married to me anymore and that she is not going to change her mind.
I changed the locks on the house the other day. Twice when I wasn't home she came in and took things. She took pictures from the walls and decorations from the girls' bedroom the first time. The second time she took the folder that contains everyones social security cards, birth certificates, marriage license, etc.
She told me that her attorney would not be amused and that she wasn't going to pay (even though her name is on the mortgage) if I don't give her a key. I maintained my composure while I pointed out the things she had done. She said that most of the things she took were hers before we were married.
I told her that 1. I don't have a key to where you live so you shouldn't have a key to where I live. 2. Everything is considered marital property until a settlement agreement is reached. 3. She could have asked me to copy the documents or called me to let me know that she had them. She did neither she was sneaky about it. So since I can't trust her I changed the locks. Then I turned around and walked downstairs.
After our exchange she sat on the couch like a scolded child.
Do I still love her? I don't know. I love the memory of her. I love the girl I married. My wife is an incredibly beautiful woman. She is 40 and had three kids but still looks good. She had been a model before we met. She is also razor sharp. She graduated from the best journalism school in the country and interned at the New York Times. But what really got me hooked on her was when we went to Missouri for the first time to meet her family.
The family dog had gotten out back after a rain storm. My MIL asked WAW and me if we could get him back. We chased the dog for a little while. Eventually I chased him towards her and she grabbed him. As she stood there holding a wet muddy dog trying to wriggle free I knew I was in love. Here was a girl who was beautiful, smart and unafraid to get her hands dirty. That was when I knew.
She started a business with OM with our money! Now the business is a thriving concern and will generate probably close to $400k in revenue this year.
I hate him so much. This POSOM not only went for a ride on my wife (if he still isn't), he has been living on my dime for years! He lives at the studio that they run the business out of. He hasn't had to pay rent, any utilities, cell phone, etc for 4 years. WAW points out that the last few years he only made 18-22K/yr. Without any bills thats decent money.
He is 10 years younger than my wife. WAW told me that POSOM told her that his mother had been cheating on his father for years and it only recently came to light. I guess the apple didn't fall far from the tree. Several times I have thought about approaching POS dad.
Perhaps he will sympathize with my cause; one betrayed spouse to another. I know it is his son but I am sure he could see that the only way my marriage has a chance is if his son is out of the picture. Thoughts on this? JoAnne thinks not, but I am inclined to throw everything against the wall and see what sticks.
My inlaws know she had an affair with him. She failed to mention the truth regarding D3.5's paternity. Do I tell them? I feel they have a right to know. But it is the only leverage I feel I have over her. SHe told me "If you tell my dad all you will be doing is hurting him." WTF You created this situation. Not me.
I have not told any of my family or friends about her cheating. I have been trying to protect her image in the event we can work things out. I must be stupid. She has betrayed and manipulated me in the most despicable way possible and I am still trying to protect her. Somebody break out a 2x4.
