"Sharks and fish can be friends" from Finding Nemo

[irishblessings]

Punkin -
I do not believe you are over-reacting. I truly believe those "in the middle" of this mess try their best to "do the right thing" and can never and will never do the right thing for one side.

I think that as hard as it is - you do these things for them because YOU want to show them how important they are to you. No expectations - just because they are so special to you.

Keep showing them - your consistency will mean much to them in the long run and YOU will feel good that you offered reminders to them of how important they are to you.

Just my 2 cents...