had I not come here, I can say with near certainty, that I'd be divorced.
This goes for me as well. And while my sitch is still a work in progress, DB IS working for me, and I'm certain my marriage IS being saved.
NTX, there is MUCH hope for your situation. I know it's hard for you to see the big picture and easy to get caught up in the day to day drama, but as a friend who follows you & cares for you...I see growth in you and hope for your marriage.