Bottom line is that you can't control what a person will do or feel. In the end it's their decision. Your choice to DB isn't what's causing your W to feel hurt. She's doing that all on her own.
What you can do is to be the stronger person that she will be attracted to when she needs it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.