W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[sandi2]

I read "ninelives" sitch last night as you suggested in a previous post and that is what has me very scared for my W.

His WAW had a history of mental problems. Does your W threaten to commit suicide?

I'm only concerned that DB'ng is making things worse for my W.

No, what makes things appear worse is her not getting her way. And, in case this is the first time you've been told....a woman, especially a WAW, can become hysterical if she thinks things aren't going the way she wants. It is not uncommon for a WAW to do exactly what your W did.

Was she telling you all of this as you held her, comforting her? It seems her tears did the trick. And, btw, she probably wondered what took you so long to finally get upstairs to check on her. You probably won't believe that she was doing all of that on purpose.....and that she had you eating out of her hand after she finished.

I too am hurting, but I guess my grieving is different than my W's.

She is not grieving! She is having an affair!! You even talked about OM as if this was all his fault for placing your W under all this stress. Please!! You refuse to see the situation for how it really is.

Before you decide to walk out and hand everything over to her, have you checked to see if that could be considered abandonment in your state? Might want to check on some legal advice regarding that. If you leave the home, chances are her lawyer could get more money for her.

I know you're afraid. But you still have to do what's right. You have to be a strong leader for your family. Moving out to let your WAW have more freedom to carry on her affair is not the sort of leadership that's needed for your children. Do you agree?