W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[25yearsmlc]

let me get this straight...

You are making changes YOU feel were needed for you to make AND SHE has noticed them too.

It confuses/pains her b/c she says the changes are great BUT "too late"...so

YOU think DBing is making it worse??

She'd already have filed if that were true...wake up.

You are not getting the immediate results you wanted and UNrealistically expected.

So?

Join the club. It's a LONG road, not a one month deal. No way has she been miserable for the WHOLE marriage...

so you back off and KEEP doing the changes so she knows they are real.

The MINUTE you stop those changes is the second she says "THANK GOD, b/c NOW i'm validated in my choice to leave h"...

so don't stop them.

Oh and remember, the changes were NOT supposed to be all about getting her back or they'd merely be tactics.

This was supposed to be about YOU being your best self...

don't stop now. THIS is the REAL Test...

((( )))