I am sure you will all be disappointed to know that I broke NC today. I had to discuss our finances with H so left a voice mail and text.
It is nearly impossible to go NC when children are involved. You are doing very well keeping contact to a minimum. Keep up the good work.
Originally Posted By: turkisheye
The girls and I were talking last night and we do not want him back the way he was. D14 said when I was at work and D13 was at grandmas that he would just sit and surf or watch tv and sometimes he would hardly speak to her all evening. He also swore a lot about silly things and lost his cool over small stuff too. Our house may be very sad and lonely just now but it is more calm and peaceful if that makes sense?
This paragraph brings up a question that most LBS'es lose sight of(myself included). Were you happy before the bomb or before getting into this mess? I know that I wasn't.
After I typed the question above, I went back to read all of your post again. By what I can gather, you weren’t happy either. Please correct me if I am wrong. It seems to me as though it was just a matter of time before one of you had enough.
That being said, it is time to start looking forward. Look at this as a gift from your H. An opportunity for you to grow.
What can you do to make yourself happy? You need to take a hard look at yourself. Remember that DB’ing is about focusing on solutions and things that work. So no matter what happens with your R/M to your H, you will be happy at the end of the day. More importantly, you will be a great example of strength and dignity for your daughters.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
