Are there any success stories here?

[25yearsmlc]

NTX

I don't know enough of your story to advise you but I can say that there ARE success stories.

It's just that most of us move on after we're here and reconcile. I have periodically taken years off of posting here b/c in a way it brings back bad memories.

But then I think of those who helped me get through that sad time, and to whom I'm so grateful, so I come back to "pay it forward."

We success stories exist but for obvious and maybe not so obvious reasons, we are not around HERE on this site, so much.

Don't give up. Aside from knowing 2 family members who actually did divorce and later remarry,

I also know other success stories that never posted here, but followed DBing.

If you can get to Piecing and then get yourself to Retrovaille, there's even more hope.

But like you said, changing YOU FOR YOUR SAKE is the key....don't bother wondering if she's changing.

That means you are measuring and no one uses hte same measuring cup. You won't see the past identically no matter what and there may always be questions that remain unanswered.

Deal with what IS, and someday try to go "from this day forward", and see what awaits you.

Don't spend too much time on the past except for owning YOUR part in this.

I find that most of the suceess stories had the LBSer making a lot of changes LONG BEFORE ANY changes were made by the WAS...

and that's okay.

((( )))