GALing and Boundaries with XH

[AntoniaB]

Well, the one thing I have a terrible time doing is learning how to live in limbo...and that's exactly what I have to do now.

The vet says it really can't be anything but a tumor. Not to pay for an expensive biopsy, because there really isn't anything else it can be. She asked if she was eating and drinking and playing and getting around normally, and I said yeah, esp. with the pain meds. So she said "then just maintain her on pain meds for now." She never brought up euthanizing her. I asked should we do that, and she said "no." She said she would do it if I asked because of the age of the animal, but then I said "if it was YOUR cat what would you do?" She said "I'd give her the pain meds. If she deteriorates as far as quality of life, on the meds, THEN I'd make the decision to euthanize."

I guess a tumor isn't an automatic death sentence? I was really surprised, as this vet doesn't play around...so for her to say maintain her on pain meds was unexpected.

I was ready to do it today, but now I'm back home with her. And I think this is all meant to teach me how to live in limbo...