alcoholic H decided he wants D

[mishka422]

There really isn't much you can do about not wanting S around OW. Unless you can prove she it unfit in some way and get a court order of protection against her, you're going to have to let it go. Trust me, not easy to do. I was disgusted at every level having to let my son visit his dad in ow's house. It grated every nerve.

Thankfully (or maybe not so much), your son is old enough to understand what his dad is doing and how much it is hurting him. He is at the age where he can decide what he does and does not want to do. I'm sure it will be hard, but let him come to his own decision about it.

Could you possibly speak to the C before stbxh gets there and explain what happened and ask for guidance on how to handle the situation?

Did your stbxh ever have an legal charges against him due to his drinking? If you believe he may be drinking again, you may need to find some proof of that if you plan on keeping S14 away from him for his own safety. If there is no safety issue then I believe your hands are tied on it.

You have a very good handle on all of this. Just reading what happened brought up so many old feelings that my stomach was churning and that is 4 years after the fact! For just finding out, you are doing remarkably well! Be proud of that and be proud to know that you have done everything you could to protect your children.

So sorry sweetie. Keep that chin up and plaster a smile on your face and step forward in confidence!