W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[workinghardguy]

She probably was interested in your experience...trying tom understand why went, but there's a long, long road from there to going to church with you.

And I'm not trying to beat a dead horse here, but I think it provides an instructive opportunity... Look at the invite from her perspective. How would that firstnvisit work exactly? Just start at introductions. How do you introduce her?

Hi, I'm Jim and this is my estranged and soon to be divorced wife Ellen... Hmm, no that's not quite right. Well, can't just call her wife... Friend? Soon to be ex-wife? See where this is going? Just the terror of having to be in that sitch is enough to make her run.

My w, about a month back, thought at one point I was inviting her to go to church. She reacted very negatively and I was caught flat-footed because inviting her was the farthest thing from my mind.