thks mdw. I am praying this will be my first and only time in this sitch.
Today H brought the kids home after his short overnight visit with them. The exchange was better then ever. Before he brought them over he texted, do you need anything - I wrote back apple juice. Didnt really need anything but since he was offering. When he came over we chatted for a little. I was dressed very cute and sporty she he has responded positively to my athletic GALing stuff - he complimented my pants and asked again when he left if I needed anything else. I said no. Before DB his friendlyness would have made me crazy, why does he want to be so friendly and still divorce me and ruin his kids lives?? Now I can kind of accept this irrational behavior since he doesnt know what the heck he is doing and I just have to keep the pressure off. I can make myself crazy if I look at the possible scenerios, I know todays exchange was nice and I am happy. I know he is slowly creeping back as long as I seem like I believe its over. In the future I want to post about the POW I think it will help me get those anxieties off my chest. One manipulation idea that I had was to get my daughter to mention that she wants a big kid bed and see if H takes the iniative to buy it and set it up. I know that DBing is not about manipulation but I thought I would get my D to mention it and if he took the bait then great if not I will not mention it again I will just go and take care of it. any thoughts on that? Thanks everyone, so glad I found this board
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
