Also, regarding the baby, that CAN be very hard on men and women the first time around. You're right, no one could have seen that coming. I had a very hard time with our first -- that's part of the reason that I'm here. I didn't run away, but between the energy I put into the baby, and the energy I had to put into work, I didn't have much left for W, and she resented me for that for years. I can understand why your H would freak out, but I certainly condemn his actions. It's never OK to leave your wife and new baby. You work on it and you figure it out.

You signed up for a partnership in marriage, and when things got tough he bailed. Make him work to make that up to you. The better to do on your own, and the harder you are to get, the more he's going to want it.

--Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015