Quote: The premise of the book is that anger is a signal that something needs changing in our world, a symptom of discontent with who we are and how we interact with each other. Anger is a feeling and, as such, has no moral value, is neither wrong nor right. But ignoring it or trying to bury or suppress it leads to inner dissatisfaction and conflict.
Any takers?
I'll bite since I was one of the ones suggesting you start this thread.
This first part spoke to me and what I have been working on in myself. I had never realized what an angry person I was before. I do believe this was from growing up even into my late teens very surpressed. There was not a real opportunity to grow in myself or certainly no way any anger over that sitch could be expressed.
No, I'm not going to say all the problems I have are due to my mother. My way of looking at it is my problems are due to the choices I continued to make on how to deal with my anger. Still surpressing it wheter it was accurate anger or irrational anger. Never learning how to appropriately deal with it in any type of situation, other than surpressing it.
I believe it finds other ways to come out then, my coldness at times in dealing with my relationship with David I believe was a result of anger and not properly expressing it or processing it.
I believe the amount of anger I had built up and the years of surpressing it also contributed in my case to my depression. I was angry at myself and the actions I had taken. I felt guilty and unworthy and the combination of all of those negative feelings towards myself, not properly processed or addressed contributed to my spiraling downward into the depressed, dependent state I ended up in. Basically miserable a lot of the time in my life.
Quote: <snip> I try to treat anger with some modest respect but not to allow it too much latitude. Sort of like the annoying door-to-door salesman who knocks at dinnertime...
I answer the door, find out what he wants, deal with him and close the door. I do not invite him in as a guest and ask him to stay in the guest room until he feels it is time to leave. Betsey
I LOVE THIS!!!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Ah, this is an interesting thread, Opt (and all of you). I have been talking to my C about anger lately. And I did read that book long ago, but I think I need to re-read it, because I don't remember much of it. I definitely fall into the "Nice Lady" category, but I've gotten better over time. As someone said earlier, I have a lot to be angry about from my upbringing, but I have only recently started to uncover it. I think it helps to know that you don't necessarily have to show say, your parents, this anger, but to acknowledge and accept it in yourself and respect it can be empowerin
