Got a call from H today. He started bringing up some of the issues we talked about yesterday. I tried to get off the phone in a pleasant way, he wasn't having it. He asked me if I would answer a couple of questions honestly. I tell ya, when you hear that you know its coming, right?
Soooo, he asks me if I wore my wedding band to church today. This was one of the things he brought up yesterday, too. He feels like I never wore my band (not true, I did occasionally forget it, but it was mostly a case of taking it off before he got home so he thought I wasn't wearing it) when we were together. I told him yes, as a matter of fact, I still have it on.
He asked why I'm still wearing it. I told him I intended to as long as I was still married. A moral decision. He said why, because you are not going to be married soon. I told him I would as long as I still was married. He said we are only married legally. I said, yes, but we are still married legally, and before God I am still married. So I intend to honor my vows and I'm sorry if he has a problem with that.
I asked him if it bothered him that I still wore it. He said, yes, he would rather I didn't. I told him I'm sorry but I intend on wearing it anyway.
He also asked who I had been talking to on my cell- apparently he's checked the phone records and saw some numbers he didn't recognize. I told him who they were, some new friends and great sources of support.
I was able to keep my cool, although I am very frustrated and confused. I keep reminding myself, only believe half of what they do and none of what they say. He definitely said some things meant to hurt me or push my buttons, notably that I wasn't going to be married anymore.
Any thoughts out there?
I don't know what to make of this conversation. I don't know if this is a case of testing the changes, or just a case of misery wanting company.
