How much do you share with ex?

[ClingingToHope]

I'm no legal expert. But to make a change, wouldn't she have to hire a lawyer, file a motion and then leave it up to a judge. I imagine judge's see this all the time and I doubt she'd automatically win.

As long as you are living up to what's in the agreement then the judge is unlikely to change it. That's what my attorney told me. Just do what it says and if she wants to change it the burden will be on her to prove why there has to be a change. Judges, I've been told, are very unlikely to disrupt schedules that are in place and working.

You've got unemployment coming, correct? That gives you a cushion to find someone. Moving away to me seems like a last resort.

My company is struggling and has had several layoffs. I was thinking of leaving after the last one and finding another job/career.

A guy I respect told me to go back to school and get a Masters. That'll take three or four years. In the interim, he told me to ride it out at my current company because I set my own schedule, leave anytime I need to pick up the girls and have four weeks of vacation.

I may make more elsewhere, but I'd give up the flexibility that allows me to see my daughters 86 percent of the days during the school year.

The time with them is worth more. If it goes well, in five years I'll have my masters and can pick and choose what I want to do. My girls will be 14 and 17 and really not want to hang with me anyway.

I vote tough it out and stay near them. You can chase money and opportunity later.