I certainly fit into the "nice Lady" category.(sigh) My H cannot stand conflict and I avoid it altogether, but amazingly enough, I don't feel much anger. I'm by nature just not an angry person.
If you read back on all my threads and see what my life was growing up, I should have tons of anger. I wonder where it all is?
Until my H comes totally out of his fog, I cannot cause conflict by telling him when I think he is out of line. He immediately gets defensive and we get nowhere real fast.
Thing is, he never thinks he's wrong! He takes responsibility for the A and knows it was wrong, but I know he justifies it even as he says there is no justification telling me that I don't understand what led him to it.
I refuse to take responsibility fro him having his A. His choice, his mistake.
I've made the changes that bothered him so much, and he is still not home. It goes deeper than what he tells me because he does not understand himself.
