It's time to let go part II

[workinghardguy]

Rick,
Sandi's comments are exactly what went through my head upon reading your post. You're separated. So you live in the same house, that's convenience-based not relationship-based.

Your w isn't being guarded, she's just treating you like any other person who doesn't rate in her world. Sorry if that sounds blunt but it's where things are at. Think of someone she knows but isn't great friends with... Younger getting the same info that person would get. The coldness in delivery comes from you trying to press, perhaps even subconsciously, and her reminding you where things stand.

My w and I have pretty open and engaged talks when we do talk. BUT I don't read anymore into it than she is talking to a good friend, maybe best friend, definitely best male friend. W and I just had a good convo, at her initiation, about my weekend. But I look at it as a friend to friend chat, nothing more right now. I also only gave her the friend level info...

You have to be where she is at. Otherwise she will keep pulling away from you because you're coming at her. I would have left the vacation talk at "oh, ok" and walked out. She was giving you logistical info that you used to try and create a connection with. If you're honest with yourself, weren't you hoping your last comment was going to spark a greater convo about her life? Then you could live the thrill of the connection again. We're junkies for it, I'm as guilty as the next person, and keeping ourselves from "shooting up" is really, really hard.

She went guarded because she sensed you were doing more with the logistics info than she intended so she shuts it right down.