I am so very sorry for your tragic losses this year. I can't imagine what your pain must be like. I hope you will continue to come here b/c people care and will support you.

Do you still love your W? Do you want the M to survive?

I have known other couples who have loss a child, and it affects the MR tremendously, partly b/c each parent is grieving and maybe blaming. How did your W deal with her grieving the loss of the D? Do you believe either of you put blame on the other?

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Do you still love that girl?

Bottom line is that you are the only father she's ever known. Even if the DNA test says otherwise, you be the rock for that girl. It's not her fault that she's in a screwed up situation. Concentrate on the kids and not your W.


I agree with Bond about your youngest child, and about your oldest.

Pain does terrible things to us. I hope you can let your oldest D lie in peace and decide that your parental love for her was what matters most.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!