I agree with WHG's post. If your W is mad/sad, let her deal with it. It may very likely be that she has been observing your close interaction with your daughter and she is feeling a sense of loss since she is not part of that picture. So step back from the urge to do or say anything.
I often find myself in situations where I feel an overwhelming need to react to events. Sometimes I react and sometimes I choose not to and instead wait to see how things play out. It's interesting, during those times where I pause and don't immediately react I often find that events have a tendency to catch up with themselves and some new dynamic enters the picture.
I think for now, let events play out. You just might be surprised what you see in Act II. IT could turn out to be a fantastic show!
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