Geez that's pretty heavy. I wouldn't exhume your D's remains. Let her be at peace.
As for your 3 year old, whose child is it? Is it the OM's? Have they made an issue about wanting the child for themselves? Do you still love that girl?
Bottom line is that you are the only father she's ever known. Even if the DNA test says otherwise, you be the rock for that girl. It's not her fault that she's in a screwed up situation. Concentrate on the kids and not your W.
IMHO, you shouldn't help your W move. What she's done more than justifies you not helping her. If she makes a big deal about it, and that you're acting like a d*ck, then kindly tell her that you sill want the M that both of you started to work and that if she makes the decision on her own to leave, then she will have to do things herself or have the OM help he move.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
