Thanks, LITB! I hate what my S's having to go through. I know whatever happens is also going to impact his future relationships, too. I am trying to make that as positive as I can for him.
I was just sharing at my Men's group tonight, when my parents D'd, my D was the wayward spouse. My Mom would occasionally slip up and say something bad about my Dad. She was probably justified in it, but the biggest insult my Mom could hurl at me would be, "You are acting just like your Father". It damaged my confidence of being able to do anything right as a Father or a husband for that matter. Oddly enough, I think my latest situation has helped me overcome a lot that damage.
There wasn't too much drama today, and that's a good thing. My S forgot to pack his lunch (yes, he's 10, but he's packing his own lunches for school - I am VERY proud of him) last night. We figured that out about 5 minutes before the bus came. So we went with the no-huddle offense and worked together and got it done. The bus came down the street and we hopped in the car and I drove him down the bus stop in reverse, Bo Duke style. So that was our excitement for the morning.
My W came to pick up my S after work for the evening and to take him to Cub Scouts. It was very brief interaction. I was eating dinner at the island in the kitchen and she just hung out in the dining room, but we could still see each other and hold a light conversation.
My GAL'ing tonight was my Men's group at church. It was an awesome meeting tonight. I am getting connected with an amazing group of guys! I am getting a ton more support from the guys. Getting closer to God has been the best by-product of my situation. I know He is truly using my situation for good, I just can't see the whole picture yet!
I still have to do some more work for my job tonight. Then, since I took the morning off of exercise, I think I'm going to go out for a run/walk. I'll probably cover 2.8 mi. and run 1.8 - 2 mi. It's getting pretty cold out there. It's 39 degrees at the moment. Brrr!
Morning JB.. sorry to hear about the 'date'. Especially that your S was hurt by it. As usual, you seem to be handling it with dignity and class, and setting a great example for him. I still want to shake her, though.
On a lighter note, I had to chuckle picturing you and your son backing up to the bus stop like that.... I could almost hear the YEEEEEHAAAWWW!!!
As usual, you seem to be handling it with dignity and class, and setting a great example for him.
Thanks for that, ROMB. I really appreciate hearing that. It hurts hearing that, especially from my S. And it does make me angry. Sometimes it takes all the strength that I have not to lash out.
Originally Posted By: realormakebeliev
On a lighter note, I had to chuckle picturing you and your son backing up to the bus stop like that.... I could almost hear the YEEEEEHAAAWWW!!!
Didn't get my exercise in last night, so I took care of it this morning. I took to the ground and ran 2 miles in frigid 36 degree temperatures.
Had brief contact with my W this morning. She brought my S by the house to get his backpack and to change clothes. Her hair looked nice, so I complimented. She did what she's always done and said thanks, but discounted the compliment. Later she called - by accident. I was on the road, so I called her back. She had meant to text me something Cub Scouts. All pleasant interactions this morning.
She also texted me about a bowling party she's going to with her dysfunctional friend. Her dysfunctional friend's boys are going to be there, so she asked if my S could go. I haven't responded yet. At first I thought she was inviting me to go, too , until I re-read the text. Not that I'm overly eager to go. I think I'm going to respond and ask her what time the party is. I was actually thinking about taking my S to church for a Student Ministries meeting on Saturday evening, although that's something I don't have to commit to. I'm not going to make it too easy; however, I did have my S pretty much all day last Sunday and it was her weekend.
Tonight was pretty low key. I am taking next week off work, so I am finishing up a vacation "push". I ended up working a little late. When I got home, I work in the great room while my S watched a little TV. He wanted McDonald's for dinner. Believe it or not, tonight was the second time this year I've been to McDonald's. We then went to WalMart to pick up a DS game for his grades. He made one B and the rest were As. I am SO proud of him. We just came home and chilled out. Who knows what we'll get into tomorrow? Unfortunately, I have a little residual work to do before I can really be on vacation. I think we'll still be able to get into something tomorrow!
I didn't end up GAL'ing as much as I would have liked today. I slept late and I had to finish some stuff for work. I took next week off work, and it's always a puch to get a lot stuff done bevore I'm out of the office.
My S ended up not wanting to go with my W to the birthday and Halloween party. He didn't want to go. Part of my plans were blown up. I was going to take him to the Student Minsitries Saturday night thing at church. I took him there and ther was no-one in sight. I just moved on to the next step in my original plans. We went out for dinner at a sports bar and I was able to watch some college foootball. We went out and got the movie, "Spooky Buddies" and watched it.
We'll have a couple things going on tomorrow. There's church in the morning. My S wanted to go to a friend's trunk and treat at his church - so I'll think I will take him. If it's nice enough, maybe I'll take him to a corn maze.
It usually seems like I can hold my own on GAL'ing with my S. However, one challenge is that a lot of single Dads don't exactly get together with other guys to get their kids together. And I don't believe I should get together with a single Mom just to get the kids together. It's not where I am right now. It would be nice to have the adult interaction, though.
I know what you mean JB. Last weekend I took my S to a haunted house. I sat there thinking that I wished there was another single dad with kids that I knew that could've come along. And then there's the logistics. Most single dads I know don't have their kids much at all, for whatever reason. They certainly don't have them as much as you do JB, for example.
Though I did start thinking that maybe married dads would be ok too. I know the whole dynamic of married guys going out with single guys, and wives not loving that. But a married guy/single guy "playdate" for their kids? Really? I can't imagine many wives who would be against that.
I love my S endlessly, but I found myself in that line desiring some adult conversation at times too.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
So that was our excitement for the morning.
Too funny!