It's time to let go part II

[workinghardguy]

Nope. If she wants to tell you, she will. Remember that this is all counter intuitive. For the most part I've found that I have definitely NOT listen to my first instinct, pause, and think it through.

She probably looks angry because she is. But do not own her anger and discord. It's HER anger and discord. She's told you what her problems with you are. You're working on them. What more can she ask for? If she's still angry, she's still angry. But you don't have to feel bad about it. She's choosing to wallow in her pain.

So leave it be. Let her be angry, sullen, or whatever.

Plus... if you ask her what are the odds that the answer will be painful for you? 99%? 99.9%? What will this do to you? Make you happy? Increase your PMA? No... it will hurt you and make you sad and angry. Now your d has no one in the house who isn't sad and angry. If nothing else, be strong for her.