Wife just told me doesn't want to be married

[JustStunned]

Witz10, Try and stick to one thread. It makes it easier for us to find and follow.

I copied this from your other thread.

This is one week out that my wife has told me that she did not want to be married. Now I am still not a 100% sure what she means exactly. She has not mentioned anything to me about the D word or attorneys. I just think it was a tactic of hers to get more space away. I don't contact her unless she reaches out to me first. With a few exceptions where I text her to tell her something I forgot when I would leave at night. Now tonight she told me she heard my son who is 6 tell my daughter who is 3 that my brother in law did come home to my sister and that I will too.
My wife said we should watch what we say around the kids. I never said this my sister told my son this when she was talking with him about not listening to me and getting me upset I walked out of a dinner.
We spoke about refinancing our condo. Which also confuse me cause we both pay for it and still have a joint bank account.
I still want to work things out my wife not so much. How long do I wait before feeling like a smacked ass?
Next problem is when I put the kids to bed and they ask me to rub there arms or back it reminds me of my wife and I start feeling upset and sad and think why. If I had done this more would I be in this situation? Why instead of watching tv at night , why didn't I go to bed with my wife.
People tell me don't beat yourself up about this. Well then why can I picture in my mind all the times I screwed up romantically that if I didn't would I be here.

I registered in January 2011 and I am still a newbie. This is a marathon not a sprint. There are no quick fixes. There is work to be done and effort to be expended. Strap in for the long haul.

The emotions you are feeling are normal. There will be more. If my experience is any indication there will be some very intense ones.

I gather from your posts you and your W have separated? Specifically why? What reasons has she stated? For how long?