Geez, DG...I just now read this. This sux! I can't believe you found out this way.
Just remember your H is in a very dark place right now.
Also remember what you've done for yourself. It is simply amazing when I think of the DG from your first posts and the DG now. You are a totally new person. I wish your H had done half as much for himself as what you've done. If so - you probably wouldn't be here.
It's not over until YOU say it's over. Since you've been through this before, you know this is just an initial step.
If it does go all the way to D, I'm sure your next H will ben upgrade. With all the changes you've made with yourself, I'm sure there have been many men who are noticing.