What are your W’s principal objections about staying in the M? What in that list can you consistently 180?
It is unlikely you will fix this with a few pleasant conversations about work and a bday gift. It is likely these will be perceived as tactics. How do you think these will be perceived?
I am not familiar enough with your sitch to explain myself directly using what you have posted, so please let me use an example.
If you have not been emotionally available to her in the past and have now decided to change that (180) she will likely need to see that change consistently over a long period of time. It will need to be a real change, not something tried to Band-Aid the R. It is likely she will perceive it as a Band-Aid (tactic) at first even if it is real. That is why you need to be consistent and patient while waiting for even the smallest positive.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
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