IS, I'm so sorry to hear about all of this. ((())) I wish I had the magic words to ease your pain.
It sounds to me like you know a lot of the answers of what you should do and what you shouldn't do. All of things take practice.
IMO, she is feeling immense guilt, and that's likely why she sent a message via text. It was disrespectful. And even more disrespectful by not calling.
Allow yourself to feel these emotions. I think many, if not all of us have been there.
You've been in prayers, and I will continue to pray for you. Hang in there! I'm in your corner.
