So sorry, DG, that is a crappy way to find out. I don't know if it helps to hear this or not, but you can leave this behind you with your head held high, knowing you did everything you could. He can't say the same and that's what he'll have to live with. I'd rather be you.
I am really glad your grandfather is going home, please keep us posted. I'll be keeping you both in my prayers.
